Sad News — A Wonderful Friend (& TJ Fan) Is Gone
Monday, February 28th, 2011
The woman in this photo is named Anita McGraw, a Tom Jones fan from Winter Park, Florida. Having fought lung cancer for about two years, she passed away in her sleep Sunday morning.
I met Anita via this website. We corresponded and, as she was diagnosed with cancer just after she made reservations to come to Las Vegas to see Tom in January 2009, for awhile it was a toss-up if she could actually make the trip. Her doctor gave her clearance and I picked her up at the airport and brought her to the MGM Grand where kind hotel staff, told of her illness, had given her room near the elevator so she wouldn’t have to walk far.
Even then, walking was difficult and even the relatively few yards from, say, Fiamma to Craft Steak were an effort. But Anita did it and always with a smile or a joke. At the time she had undertaken the task of distributing postcards to fans and having them signed and, then, collected, as a petition to get Tom into the Hall of Fame. But, she had a great deal of trouble simply carrying the cards so, in the end, she couldn’t do what she’d tried to do. Sadly, the people who asked her, called and harassed her while she was still here and, after she got home, bombarded her with demands that she still deal with the cards. The entire episode upset her greatly. I was upset that these people, who knew she was ill, didn’t just drop it. But, ultimately, we were able to joke about the incident and the people involved.
Anyway, we talked — as two native New Yorkers —about lots of topics. These included cancer, she as someone new to the disease and I as a long-time survivor. I never met anyone with such a great attitude about illness and about the potential of not surviving. That attitude was very realistic and she had great faith.
Remember, this was just after 24 Hours was released and, to honor that, she brought a gift for Tom, a pair of boxer shorts decorated with Sugar Daddies. (In addition to being the name of a song Tom sang, it is the name of a caramel candy in the USA.) She didn’t get to give the gift to him in Las Vegas but managed to do so in Florida a few months later.
Anita’s cancer progressed steadily and, hearing that, I was able to send her a personally autographed photo of Tom wishing her the best. She was thrilled; told me she cried when she opened it.
Anita’s son, John, called me Sunday morning with the news. She died peacefully in her sleep. John said he was able to take her outdoors a few days ago to watch the Space Shuttle launch (they live near Cape Canaveral).
He said, “I just wish she could have lasted a little longer so I could have taken her to see Tom Jones one more time.”
I wish that, too.
Anita, my friend, may you rest in peace and may your memory be for blessing.















